An effective birth partner is 100% confident about birth and hypnobirthing, super organised and ready & willing to support a mother in any way she wants... After a disappointing experience, Isla in Cornwall wants birth partners to create and follow a 'list of jobs'. I've written a sample list below which includes Isla's suggestions.
Isabell Steinert Photography from '35 raw birth photos of Dads' Huffington
- Be honest about how much you'd like to participate, and consider hiring a doula to support you both
- Write a 'tick box' chart for the day. This is agreed together beforehand so you don't forget anything
- Check the bags regularly: make sure that baby, mum and partner(s) have everything they need (including phone chargers). Make sure that you can find items quickly when they're needed
- Set out and manage the 'mammal-friendly' scene wherever mum happens to be. Use the hypnobirthing MP3s / music, lights / candles, scents and (if applicable) fill the birth pool and keep it up to temperature
- Be present - don't just read the newspaper or watch the TV!
- Make your partner comfortable. In between contractions proactively offer plenty of treats, sweets and various different drinks so she doesn't have to ask you
- Offer the physical support and encouraging words you've been rehearsing in the last few weeks
- Take lots of photos (if agreed beforehand)
- Look after the midwife and offer her food / drinks